March Updates

Trying to finally hit publish on this, so I can move onto other updates!

The short of March was sickness, travel to MN, and more sickness.  There, how's that for an update?

For wordy, story-teller me, you know that I have to include more details...for my sake and remembering if nothing else.  The month started off with R have another ear infection, that we thankfully caught in enough time to have a few days of meds in her system before getting on an airplane.

We were off to MN for a visit to my family.  It was with mixed emotions that we went.  I was excited for my family (especially my grandma, R's only great-grandparent) to spend time with R and see how she had grown since it had been 8 months since our last visit.  I had been planning to try and visit again before R turned 2, and it was a great to have an excuse to bring DH along to help with R and help keep things calm with my family (my mom tends to pester and attack me much more when he's not around).

The purpose of our trip was for our newest niece's baptism.  This is my little brother's 2nd child, and it was hard not to be jealous of their growing family.  When I say little, he and his wife are 29 years old, but he's 6 1/2 years younger than me and still seems little in my mind.  And starting a family and having children has never been a problem for them, so they just try and get pregnant right like that.  I hate that jealousy rears it's ugly head at a time that should be so joyful.  Plus, how can I be jealous when I have my own child that I am so extremely thankful for?  It was such a mix of emotions and like an inner wrestling match inside of me.

They named their daughter's middle name after my grandma.  Again, mixed emotions.  So neat for my grandma to be able to experience that honor, but also feeling sad again for myself because I'd been thinking about possibly using a variation of her name for a daughter's first name if we ever have another daughter.  Again, jealousy came out in my mind and I hate that.

Then the kicker is they asked DH and I to be Godparents!  No greater honor than to be asked to care for the spiritual well-being and faith of the child while she grows up.  Of course, we said yes and look forward to nurturing and encouraging her faith as she grows up. She's on our nightly prayer list along with our other Godchildren (this is #3 now).

But I still can't shake those jealous feelings at times.  How do you deal with it?  I need remedies. And I know my brother and SIL have their own issues in their marriage that DH and I don't have, so it's not like I'm looking to trade positions with them or anything.  I just want to not feel jealous when I think about them having two children before they're 30.

It was while we were in MN that the Malaysi.an Airlines plane when missing, which freaked my dad out.  He's nervous nellie when it comes to flying, and you could tell he was extra nervous sending us off from the airport to return home.  I was captivated by the news of the missing plane for weeks.  Seriously, it became an every day thing for me to read the latest updates on the search.  I don't know if it was because I used to live in Beijing or could have imagined myself or someone I'd known being on that Beijing-bound plane, but I was just hooked.  I'm still so curious as to what happened, and hope they are able to find out.

Leaving MN this time around was definitely full of mixed thoughts.  Grandma is almost 92 and I really don't know if we will see her again.  We have no plans to visit MN again for probably a year or more.  I just don't see a trip happening again before that.  I'm thankful I got the sweetest picture of R and grandma.  It was adorable.  And lots of video and memories to share with her if she never gets the chance to see her again.  Ahh...tears are coming as I type.  That's one of the downsides to living so far away from family.  I wish we were only a days' car drive away instead of 2+.

This was also the trip where a check-in agent threatened to make us buy a ticket for R because we weren't traveling with her birth certificate or anything that proved she was under 2!  Seriously, I couldn't believe it.  Of all the times we had traveled with her before (9 flights, I think) not a single person had asked for any sort of ID on her.  I guess she is tall, but what an awful feeling to have someone in authority basically tell you they believe you are lying and trying to sneak her on!  Finally, a phone call to my BFF and her being able to tell the agent R's birthday sufficed.  And the funny thing is, another agent saw the wringer that we were being put through and bumped us up to row 1- business class!  That move prevented me from calling Air Tran and complaining (1st time we've flown with them).  It was so nice to have the extra space in front of us.  Definitely made the flight go smoothly, but what a roller coaster of emotions to end that trip.

And then March ended with more sickness for R.  She came down with some sort of stomach bug that lasted close to a week.  It started in the middle of the night with repeated vomiting.  Poor girl was so scared she didn't have a clue what was going on and just kept saying, "yuckies."  All she wanted to do was nurse for comfort and go back to sleep, but that only brought on more vomiting.  I seriously had to walk away and leave her wailing with DH so time would go by for her stomach to settle down and her return to sleep.  Worst.  Night.  Ever.  And then we thought she was getting better and it started all over again 2 days later.  Honestly.  Totally scrubbed down the car seat twice in March.  Definitely a low point on my list.  And then just when she was finally getting better, DH came down with the same yucky bug that put him out of commission for 2 days and confined to the bathroom.  Amazingly and surprisingly, I was spared, which is usually not the case because his immune system is much stronger than mine usually is.

And with that lovely note, March ended.  Better updates are coming up in April and May.  I promise!!

Quick Takes (43)

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This is my 201st post!  Wow.  I wasn't sure when I started this blog what would come of it, for I started it mainly as a way to connect with other IF bloggers and receive support through that network along with this being an anonymous outlet for my thoughts, struggles, and feelings during one of the hardest times in my life.  My frequency in blogging has definitely slowed down since I first started, but I love that I have a place that documents my journey- God's story- in my life.

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We are finally getting back on track after our most recent trip to visit the in-laws.  That'll come in the April updates, if I ever finish and post the March ones.  We'll just say it was the most awful, stressful, uncomfortable trip ever.  Didn't see that one coming at all.  It took us nearly 2 weeks to get R back on schedule with with her sleep routine overnight and naps.  Ugh.  Happy to report that I think we're finally there though. Phew.  And we only have one possible trip planned this summer, much to DH and I's delight.  We're looking forward to a staying-home-kind-of-summer.

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We are starting the weaning process.  Who ever thought I'd still be nursing a 2 year old?  Not IF, PCOS me, for sure.  My goal was to make it to a year.  And then once we hit the year mark, I just thought we'd see what happened.  At 18 months, her doctor said the WHO recommended to continue until 2, and that most babies would self-wean, so I figured...we'll just keep with it. I did start to practice gentle weaning, where I didn't offer to nurse, but I also didn't refuse when she asked.  But once we hit the 2 year mark, along with a host of other issues, I just felt emotionally and physically ready to wean.  At R's 2 year check, her doctor thought she might be using nursing as a way to manipulate me, so I've tried to limit her nursings to a few set times during the day, and it does seem to be working most days.  We're only 10 days in, so definitely still plugging away, but it's also sort of bittersweet to think of my time with her in that way is going to be coming to an end soon.  And I don't know if I'll have the chance to nurse another baby, so I think that's part of the reason I let her hang on as long as she did.  I enjoyed that special bonding time with her for sure and am so thankful for the experience even if there's not another.

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It is so hard to believe we have a 2 year old in the house now!  Some days I find it hard to even believe I have a child because I spent so many years thinking it would never happen.  R is starting to be so affectionate and she's developing a little sense of humor, it is so funny.  She can identify most if not all of her letters, she knows her colors and basic shapes, and can count to thirteen. I love seeing her little mind develop.  She loves to run and jump, play outside, and would probably stay outside all day if I let her.  She likes reading books, all things with wheels (cars, trains, tractors, etc.), Curious George, bugs, and balls.  We just had her 2 year pictures taken and I cannot wait to see how they turned out (we did have to do 2 shoots though because I totally forgot to bring her outfits to the 1st one and didn't realize until we were 45 mins from home. doh!  Not one of my finer moments.)

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We just joined Costco for the 1st time with a deal I found online (free items, money back, etc).  We've never lived close to one (we're still not super close), but we finally grew tired of Sam's Club and thought we'd make the change for a year and see what we think.  I'm so excited to check out some of their organic items.  Now to find the time to get over there and check everything out.  What are some of your favorite Costco items to buy?

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Summer is a'coming!  School is winding down for the year here and so are many of the activities we've been participating in.  My Matthew Bible study was over a few weeks ago as well as MOPS.  DH's evening work commitments free up quite a bit soon, and we're looking forward to tackling our long (and growing) summer to-do list.  You know, all those house projects we haven't done the 9 months we've been here.

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And in other summer news, pools are opening up around here like crazy.  Hard for me to believe since it's still May, but we've definitely had several days where a dip in the pool sounds quite refreshing.  Although as I type that, I'm sitting in long sleeves and pants.  It was 70 for a high today with 48 overnight.  Everyone around here is complaining about the unseasonably "cool" weather.  DH and I are loving the break from the heat.  Looks like it's remaining "cool" (ie. 70s) through the weekend.  Can't wait.  Going to enjoy it.  Hope you enjoy it too!

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Sharing Your Story

One of the recent topics for a MOPS meeting was all about telling your story.  And it wasn't just focused on telling the events of your life, but more on the transfer of one main idea - sort of like a life lesson from God.  I've shared lots of elements of my story before, but I've never really thought of it in a way of transferring something to another person that they can grow from.  I really liked that and thought it was much more God-glorifying than just a lot of talk about events in my life.

To prepare for our story, we watched this video.  Lysa Terkeurst does a much better job explaining the concept of telling your story.  Rather than focusing on a linear, chronological approach, she looks at our stories as a wheel.

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After watching the video, I took some time to journal different aspects of my life and areas where I had felt closest and farthest away from God.  I really was surprised at how my story took shape as I followed the guidelines in the video (intro, theme/sticky hub, event, connect event to theme, etc.).  With it being National Infertility Awareness Week this week (April 20-26), I thought it was fitting to share some of what I learned about telling your story and also to share some of my story.

The fact is, we all have stories to tell. God is working in us, around us, and through us all the time.  He is doing amazing things constantly, and while they may not be the things we want Him to be doing, there are lessons to be learned in it all.

I typed out the gist of what I shared with my MOPS group when we all came together to share our stories:

Hard times and the hand of God:  I feel like one of the themes in my life has been hard times and the growth that has happened as a result- both emotional and spiritual growth.   I’ve had my share of hard times, but God’s presence has always been felt or experienced through those struggles and I’ve always come out a stronger person as a result.  From my high school days when I would attend church by myself to having to transfer colleges my 3^rd year to a broken relationship with my mom...these have all been areas where I've struggled personally.
 

But for me, there are a few key instances that stand out that have been hard, but looking back, I see where God had His hand as He took those hard times and redeemed them for good and His glory.  

1.  I wasn’t quite ready to settle down into a real-world job after college, so I decided to go overseas.  I ended up with a program teaching English in China.  We left late August 2001.  The adjustment was harder than I imagined.  The sights, sounds, and smells were so different.  I was completely out of my comfort zone.  And then 9/11 happened and I was in a foreign country, and a communist one at that, where our information was censored.  We pretended we were Canadians for awhile and had travel restrictions placed on us by our organization.  We felt alone, isolated, scared, and confused.

But God did not leave me.  I worked through those hard times with my fellow American teachers.  I grew to love the Chinese language, culture, people and food.  So much so that after my 10 month commitment was up, I signed on for another whole year.  That is all God!  I was ready to abandon the country after a month and God redeems that for 2 years of my life spent in China.  He is so good.  Those were some of my most memorable years where I saw God at work in me and around me.  I got to travel and experience the wonders of His creation.  I formed friendships with some that I still keep in touch with. That is clearly the hand of God at work in my life.

Another hard time in my life that God really used to show His power and glory was a longer period of time….about 5 years.

2. It started out with the diagnosis of some chronic health problems for me (PCOS).  There was relief in finally having a diagnosis to what was wrong with me.  But then we dealt with infertility.  For 2 years we prayed and waited and cried out to God for a child while it seemed like everyone around us was growing their family as we longed to do.  

Finally, we were pregnant and there was much joy for a few weeks until our 1^st ultrasound when we saw the baby had stopped growing.  I was devastated.    Nothing could have prepared me for the loss of our 1^st child.  I spent the better part of a year being ticked off at God, wrestling with Him over the “why” of the event, and just being angry and depressed.  And then nearly 1 year later we were pregnant again, only to suffer another early loss.

Finally, after a mission trip to Russia, and another year gone by after that 2^nd loss (I don’t know what it was with us and finding out we were pregnant in Septembers!), we found ourselves pregnant a 3^rd time.  This time it stuck, we went on to have a healthy pregnancy, and a beautiful, amazing gift in our daughter.  Those years of IF and loss were some of my darkest days, and yet, looking back, I know God never left me.  His presence was always with me, and while the events didn’t initially play out how I wanted, He redeemed all of those struggles and made them good in His time.  I am such a better parent now after having waited those years for our daughter.  I’m so much more patient and loving; I find so much joy in the day to day interactions from her.  I don’t take it for granted like I’m afraid I may have had pregnancy come easy for us.  I love being a mom.  I know what a gift it is.

And so those are some of the lessons I try to take with me when I experience hard times…because I know more will be coming.  I try to remember:  God is always with me, even when it doesn’t feel like it.  God can take the hard times and struggles and redeem them for His good and glory.  In fact, it may be those exact times where He chooses to reveal how mighty His power really is.  I know I’ve seen it numerous times in my life, and I hope you are able to see Him working even when times are hard.  For it’s in those hard times that come the greatest periods of spiritual growth for me.

So...that's the part of my story that I felt like sharing with my group.  Most didn't know our struggle with IF and miscarriages.  I pray that me sharing my story gave someone there hope- hope to trust in God, His timing, and His plan. 

I hope the same is true for those that are reading this blog.  I don't think it's coincidental that National Infertility Awareness Week began on Easter....God's most redemptive act....saving the world through the death and resurrection of His Son.  God didn't work how the people thought He would.  He worked in His time and in His own, humble way to save the world.  May that working be true in your life as well.

Why, hello there, folks.

Wow...time is a flying these days.  I am embarrassed so many months have passed since visiting this little ol blog.  I have thought about penning an update often, but then I think, oh man, it's been too long.  I don't know where to start.  And more time goes by.  I read the blogs of others and think, I should really update my blog.  There's a lot going on.  And then I don't know where to start.  Or I think about all that I feel God is teaching me or speaking to me, and I think, I should post this on my blog and share it.  And then more time goes by and I forgot about it, or I just write it in my journal.

So here I am...jumping back into the waters.  Since I don't really know where to start, I'll just start by recapping the last almost 3 months (gulp).  We'll start with February here.  March and April will probably be there own updates...ha, ha. I know how wordy (I call it descriptive) I can be.  I'll do bullet points since it's easiest and I'm feeling lazy.

• We lived through our 1st and 2nd major snowstorms here.  Oh, man. Those were adventures.  They aren't kidding when they say everything shuts down for a few (2-3) inches of snow.  I'm talking...grocery stores closed, no mail delivery for a few days, things can't get back to normal until the snow melts.  Oh my!  We had a blast with it though. R loved playing in the snow and it was so refreshing to have a few days of playing in the white stuff.   And then we got a 2nd storm a few weeks later and got to do it all over again.  Such fun memories.  If only we could have a few snow days every year.  Apparently, this is a once every 3-4 years occurrence.
• I got sucked into spending too much time watching the Olympics.  That happens every time.  I loved that they were in Russia this time around.  It took me back to DH and my time there in 2011.  The culture and people were great to see.  I still think of some of those men and women we met quite frequently, and when I do, I pray for them and their ministry in Siberia.  So that was 2 weeks of staying up too late, being too tired, and watching too much TV.
• I participated in my 1st freezer meal workshop.  That was fun.  It was through Wildtree, a company that I just learned about, but already love.  Most of their products are certified organic and free of added preservatives and fillers.  I love that!  Fits so much of what I believe in (not always what I practice with cooking), but I so fell in love with the product that I'm thinking of signing up to be a representative just so I can get the 20% discount.  ha, ha.  It is a multi-level marketing company, and I said I would NEVER join one of those, but it is only $50 to sign up.  Still thinking about it as I have so many areas I'm passionate about but never enough time to pursue them all.
• I started taking R to a twice a month Montessori play group.  It's been really good to learn from someone who is trained in Montessori as opposed to me just reading books and blogs about it.  She is little Miss Independent, often wanting to be a helped with everything I do.  Montessori embraces this little helper/independent learner idea, so it's been a good fit.  Like everything, I'm not 100% on board with it all, but it's been great for her to play with other items and kids at the play group.  We meet at a library and the teacher sets up all the little stations for the kids to work.  R usually runs around dumping everything out, but she'll get the hang of it eventually.  ha, ha.
• In-laws- we enjoyed a visit from the in-laws (FIL, MIL, and SIL) to celebrate DH's 40th birthday.  It was nice to have them finally visit us in "new to us" home.  Oh man though...I have a husband who is 40?!?  That makes me feel so old. Glad they were able to come celebrate, but not enjoying the feeling old part.

• We celebrated Chinese New Year with Chinese food...like we do every year since I lived in China.  This year is the year of the horse...my year!  So that means I am either 12, 24, 36, 48, or 60 this year...take your pick.  It was so funny while I was teaching in China, my middle school students would always ask me what my sign (ie. zodiak sign) was.  I'd always tell them I was a horse, and then they'd talk about the good characteristics of a horse, etc.  But what I think they were really doing was asking about my age.  They all know the order of the animals and it's a 12 year cycle, so you can figure out someone's age pretty quickly that way.

Well, I think that sums up February. I'll try to be back with March soon.  In the meantime, Happy Holy week to you all.  It's hardly felt like Lent to me at all.  Praying this week is different.

2014 Goals

Quick....before any more of 2014 flies by (yikes!), here are the goals I wrote down at the beginning of January.  Where that month went...I have no idea!

Now I think I mentioned in the last post, that I don't usually set goals or make resolutions at the beginning of the year, though I do like the "newness" that comes with turning the calendar to January.  For whatever reason, this year I decided I needed to write down some goals I'd like to accomplish and DH joined in with his own set of goals.  Perhaps it's all the time I feel like I waste each day or the realization that R is growing up all too quickly, but I decided I needed to change how I spent my time.  I want to be more intentional spending time with things that are most important to me- my faith, my family, and my health.  My goals, therefore, are a reflection of those things that are important and what I hope to strive for with them.

Here's the short version:

Personal
A: exercise- 2-3 times a week
B: food- cut out sugar and gluten for 3 months and re-evaluate health (maybe dairy too)
C: reading- reading 10-12 books this year
D: spiritual- spend 15-30 minutes of daily time in the Word

Marriage
E: encouragement- encourage/validate DH's opinions at least once a day
F: intentional time- "date" time once a week

Parenting
G: learning activities- 1 planned learning activity a day
H: spiritual activities- daily focused prayer (5+ minutes) for R and my parenting
I: physical activities- seek resources and support (friends, books, blogs, groups)

And here's my commentary on each item:

A: This really seems like a wimpy goal when I write it down.  I mean, I'd like to write down exercise 5-6 times a week like I was doing before R came along.  Exercise is what I need to feel better about myself, de-stress, wake up in the afternoon, and keep my weight in check/lose weight because of PCOS.  The reality is, however, that I'm getting almost no exercise at the moment because I get so depressed about not being able to go more often like I used to, that I don't go at all.  Make sense?  No.  It doesn't really to me either, but that's why this goal is realistic.  Once it gets nice out and we can go walking again, perhaps I will be able to exercise 5-6 times a week, but for now, I'd like to get my lazy bum to the gym 2-3 times.

B: This one is hard.  I've tried to start it a few times this month, and have only made it a few days.  I guess my motivation was so much higher we were TTC, and now I just opt for whatever is easiest or fastest to make at home.  And that almost always involves gluten or dairy.  Maybe I will try to give it up again during Lent.  I know I need to in order to see if I feel better, can lost a little weight, and reduce possible inflammation in my body.

C: This one I'm super excited about.  I love reading books, but it seems like I buy more than I read lately.  I decided that is going to end this year, and I'm going to start reading some of those books off my shelves.  I have a stack that I would like to attack this year, but I also want to be open to the Spirit if there's another book that I should be reading, so I'm not going to post my whole list for the year.  Right now DH and I are reading through "Seven: An Experimental Mutiny Against Excess" and it has given us lots to talk about in simplifying our life. 

D: This doesn't sound like much, and with my study of the book of Matthew this year, I do spend about this much time in the Word, but I want to really study the Bible and be open to God speaking to me through it, not just read, reflect, and answer questions like it's on my to-do list.  Does that make sense?  I want to sit and be present with the Word, but not rush through a devotional reading or Bible study to quick, hurry up and get on to the next thing.  So we'll see how this goes!

E: This one sounds easy too, but it's an area that I continually need to work on with DH.  A lot of times I can come across too strongly with my opinion, so I need to acknowledge that his point of view has worth and merit, even if I don't agree with it. 

F: Our date times are more date ins lately, which is just fine with us.  Time together and a movie, or dinner and games.  It doesn't matter, but I need to be better about setting aside intentional time for us each week.  We had scheduled one particular night of the week for this, but then other things got in the way, etc., so we're trying to figure out what will work best.

G: I really want to try and start some sort of intentional learning with R.  Her learning capacity amazes me already.  I want to nurture that sense of curiosity and intellectual growth more, so I've started thinking about some sort of "tot school" activities.  Have you heard of that?  I came across this fabulous blog with so much information about homeschooling your toddler.  And while I have no intentional of homeschooling R during the elementary and beyond years, I do think she would benefit from a little bit of structured learning time at home with me.  I'm not talking a lot...maybe 20-30 minutes a day to begin with. 

I originally thought I'd just start with letters and focus on one letter a week for 26 weeks, but then I came across these resources and then this other curriculum (Before Five in a Row) that is all literature based, so you focus on one book a week and all your activities go around that.  R loves reading, so that may be the route I go.  I like the Before Five in a Row book because it gives you ideas, but it's not too much. It's simple and a place to start, which is all I think I want/need.  I also have "The Joyful Child" and was hoping to incorporate some Montessori techniques into our every day household life, but that would require me actually working my way through reading the book, huh? (See Goal C- that book is next on my list!)

H: I really feel it's important I spend time praying for R each day- her faith, her future husband and his faith, for God to use her mightily for His Kingdom, etc.  DH and I pray for some of these things each night, but I sort of feel like I can be praying for her throughout the day as I'm with her.  Likewise, I know I need to also pray for my parenting- that God would give me the wisdom, patience, energy, etc. to be the best parent I can be.  It is hard and challenging at times, and I often fail miserably or lose my cool. I don't know what I'm doing as a parent half the time, but I want to be the mom that gives and practices forgiveness, that loves unconditionally (as best I can as a sinful being), etc.  Prayer is the only way I'll be able to get to this point.

I: This goal is probably the least defined, but I still wanted to add it to the list because it is important to create a support network of Christian parents that I can observe and learn from.  I didn't have that growing up, so it is extremely helpful to get ideas and support from those who are living their faith in their families and with their children.  Not sure of what form this one will take, but we'll see as the year goes on.

Phew...so there ya have it.  My goals for the year, well, next 11 months now!  Some may change as time goes on, I'm not exactly sure, but it's easier to keep focused if I have them written down.

The Storm Inside Webcast: Coming Soon

I was going through my inbox cleaning out emails, when I realized I hadn't read this one I received from Women of Faith.  Sorry for the late notice, but I thought I'd post it anyways in case anyone wants to tune into the webcast tomorrow.  I did read that the videos will be available during the whole 5 weeks, so if you miss tomorrow, you can still watch the video.

The theme of the webcast is "Trade the chaos of how you feel for the truth of who you are."  Sounds interesting to me.  There always seems to be chaos in our lives no matter what age or stage we are at.  For me, I know the chaos can threaten to derail or discourage my faith walk, which in turn, effects so many other areas of my life. 

I'm not super familiar with the women speakers, so I can't vouch for their beliefs, theological background, etc but I figure God can speak through a multitude of Christian women to meet me where I'm at and speak to my heart.

Here's the link.  Let me know if you tune in and what you think.  I'll do the same.

Goodbye 2013, Hello 2014.

Oh my goodness!  Is it already the middle of January?  Yikes!  I had the intent of writing this post shortly after the New Year, but as you can see, that did not happen.  But "better late than never" seems to be my mantra.

I hope y'all had a nice Christmas!  Ours was not what I expected, but that was due to me being sick with the flu for 2 weeks prior to Christmas and then finding out R had a double ear infection shortly after Christmas.  Talk about weeks of sickness draining our energy.  At least we were able to have lots of quality family time after Christmas as DH took a week off of work.  We had planned to travel North, but given how yucky 2 of the 3 of us were feeling, we opted to stay home, lay low, and unpack more boxes from the basement.  Sounds thrilling, huh?  It actually was more fun than I'm making it out to be:-)

And then it's hard to believe it's 2014.  I didn't realize how ready I was to turn the calendar to a new year until I did it.  I'm sort of glad to put 2013 behind us as it was a hard year.  Not hard like some of the years filled with IF and miscarriage, but hard because of all the change for me.  Change is hard for me to begin with, and 2013 was filled with so many big changes- the total uprooting of our lives from the West, the move to the rental house and all the "fun" that house brought, buying a house (the 1st time we did so together), moving into our house, and then starting to get settled.  Add to all of that trying to build a new support network from scratch, trying to make myself feel at home within a new church community, trying to find friends with similar interests, adjusting to being a stay-at-home-mom, and learning (yet again) that I know very little about parenting.

***Now I need to make a side comment here to acknowledge that there were many joys in 2013 that I'm failing to mention (the great joy of seeing R grow from a baby to a toddler, welcoming a new SIL into the family with my brother's marriage, many expressions of love and care from others, trips, etc.  I do know there were good things in 2013, but when I look at the year as a whole, "change" is the word that comes to mind.***

And so, here I am, one year later...a resident of the South and still getting used to so many things here.  But I feel much calmer and more settled than I did in 2013, and I like that feeling quite a bit more than the other.  Sure, there's still more that I'd like to do and have done in the house, but we have time for that.  There's no real rush like we felt at times house hunting.

So when I turned to 2014, I could almost feel myself letting out a huge sigh of relief that I hadn't realized I'd been holding in.  It was like...phew.  Fresh start, here I come.  There's just something about a new year that breeds hope in my heart.

And it was full of that hope that DH and I set out making goals for ourselves for 2014.  This isn't something we've done before, but with some prompting from me, he agreed to try it.  And I think we're both excited about it.  We took time to write down our own goals and then shared them for accountability.  I'm feeling really good about the things I'd like to focus on for the year and accomplish and the attitude and outlook I'd like to have with them.  I feel like all of the complaining/down moods don't accomplish much, and I'm tired of doing that same old thing...so change is in store.  Can you believe it...me talking about and wanting change?!?  Sort of ironic given 2013, huh?  Makes me chuckle. 

I've got plans to be a better wife and parent, to exercise more, to eat less of certain items, and to read more books.  I'll share all the specifics with you in another post, but for now I've got to run and get ready for company that's coming tomorrow morning.  My brother and SIL...the first of hopefully a long list of guests to stay in our home...our Southern home!